You don't have a home anymore. Until you do something, we are done.
"When my dad said that to me, it was the defining moment for my decision to change my life," says Frank, who graduated from The Foundry's Recovery Program five years ago.
Frank was 27 when his father delivered the ultimatum. He had abused alcohol and drugs since he was a teenager and started dealing after high school. He went to college because his parents wanted him to, but soon dropped out. "The allure of quick money was more important to me than school and took over my life. I was lying to everyone-and good at keeping up my clean image. Nobody knew the extent of what I was doing." Not even his parents.
At 25 he admitted he needed help, but a 30-day rehabilitation program had little effect. He left town to live with an aunt in Michigan, but his problems went with him. So he moved back to Alabama and into his parents' home. "My mom would go to work with me to get my paycheck because I couldn't cash it without buying drugs. I had taken my parents down this road for three or four years and they were having trouble in their marriage becuase of me. I bottomed out and disappeared for three or four days." That's when his father told him he was no longer welcome at home...and we accepted him into our Recovery Program.
"It was difficult for him," says Frank's dad. "He didn't think he could do it. I told him, "You have to, son. We can't do this for you." But God could. Two days after Frank joined our program, he invited Christ into his heart.
"It was time to give up control and to be serious about my life," Frank says. And he wasn't alone in his journey.
While Frank was in the program, his entire family got involved. "We wanted to support him every way we could," his dad recalls. "We visited him on Thursdays and Sundays for church. We didn't see it at the time, but by becoming part of his recovery, we were actually healing ourselves."
Frank graduated in February 2005 a changed man-a new creation with Christ at the center of his life. He went back to college, earned a degree in Web design and started his own company. He met his wife, Rebekah, at church and she shares his devotion to God. The couple joined Adventures in Missions (AIM), after several trips to Nicaragua-establishing Bible-based recovery programs similar to The Foundry's-they returned home to continue their work with AIM, helping others enter the mission field.
Frank now says he was blessed by his parents' actions, no matter how harsh they seemed at the time. "You have to stop enabling your loved ones (who are battling drug and alcohol addiction). That's a hard thing for parents and husbands and wives to do."
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